Welcome to feis dad

Hello, my name is Matt. I have a daughter ... no, make that two daughters ... who LOVE Irish Dance.

There. I admitted it. I’ve come clean.

It's the first step in recognizing I have a problem.

Did I say problem? Well, maybe that’s not quite right.

It’s more like a crisis of epic proportions.

If you’ve got a daughter in novice, prizewinner or championship, you know what I mean. Don’t worry, if you’re just starting this ride, you’ll find out soon enough.

If you don't know what a feis is. you're on the wrong blog. If you do know what a feis is and like it, you're on the wrong blog. If the thought of going to a feis makes you feel queasy, you're in the right place.

So, you're supposed to be here, now what?

Take a look at my first post, titled: Feis Dad Syndrome.

See if you've developed this terrible condition.

If you've got it, don't despair. There is help. I may not offer any right now, but don't lose hope, I'll get to it eventually.

Above all, I am looking forward to your comments, funny stories and helpful suggestions.

Thanks for joining me.

-- feis dad

Blog Posts

The following are posts. Please read, laugh and comment.

-feis dad

Wednesday, January 7, 2009

Kid's Best Christmas Present

Okay, Christmas is done. Finished. Over. Now, the only question is ... what was your kid's favorite present? Me, being a feis dad and all, thought I'd get my kids the HOTTEST toy of the year.

Was it a Tickle Me Flatley doll?

No.

Was it a Cabbage Patch Dumpster Kid?

Nope.

Was it the LATEST, HOTTEST video game for the Wii?

Yep.

But it wasn’t Guitar Hero or Rock Band … it was Dean Crouch’s Accordion Hero!

THE game for Irish dancers! Battle the computer while listening to your favorite Irish dance music.

My kids LOVE it. Now they don’t want to do anything else but play Accordion Hero.

What was your kids favorite Christmas present?

--feis dad

Thursday, January 1, 2009

Happy New Year from feis dad!

It’s 2009 and I know everyone is excited for the New Year and all the fun, adventure and surprises it may hold. We all know that it’s the time of year to make all those resolutions that we’ll never keep. So, in that spirit, why not make some New Year’s resolutions regarding Irish dance? Here are a few of mine.

I resolve to go to at least THREE feisana this year … at two of which I will NOT wear ear plugs.

I resolve to learn how to spell orocktis … oreaktas … that big regional dance feis thing

I resolve to fully support my daughter’s need for a new solo dress … by increasing my monthly (now weekly) plasma donations

Please add your own resolution (via comment to this blog) and I will post. I’ll even help you get started.

I resolve to ___________________ (insert resolution here).

--feis dad

Wednesday, December 31, 2008

Where's feis dad?????

Ready for another rousing round of Where’s feis dad? Try and find feis dad among the crowd. This one may be harder than the last, but I’ll give you a hint: while at the last feis, feis dad heard a rumor that there is ONE nation in the world that doesn’t allow Irish dancing: China! Hmmm … maybe communism isn’t SO bad :-). Anyway, I think this feis dad’s trying to find his way there, the fastest way possible.

Good luck.



Tuesday, November 25, 2008

feis dad goes international!

Just wanted to announce that feis dad’s gone international! I know … I know … the internet is international, but this is different. Starting in the November issue of Irish Dancing & Culture Magazine, feis dad has his own column. It’s called Feis Dad (my creativity and originality at its finest). It will be a monthly column similar to the blog (except without the cool videos and pictures) and will feature similar articles in the beginning so everyone is on the same page.

Comments and suggestions for future articles are welcome.

If you like the feis dad articles, feel free to post a comment here or send the IDM editor (Tamasine Johnson) at tamasine@irishdancing.com a note. But please, don’t all three of you send her an email at once, it could overload the system.

If you don’t like the feis dad articles, feel free to do nothing.

--feis dad

Monday, November 24, 2008

feis dad or not a feis dad?

During a recent trip to a feis, I met two brothers. Identical twins actually. Identical in every way, every detail, every fiber of their being--except one.

One of the brothers had two daughters in Irish dance and they were competing in the feis. The other brother, he was only there to watch. His daughters had decided to do something a little less expensive—like pro tennis lessons and investing in the stock market.

Below are pictures I took of each twin in front of their respective homes. Can you tell which one is a feis dad?






Sunday, November 9, 2008

Where's feis dad -- 2


Okay, another rousing round of Where's feis dad. Here's another picture from a typical feis and a typical feis dad. See if you can find him. Hint: It's what feis dad's think about when they're at a feis.


--feis dad




Thursday, October 30, 2008

Another Rambo post

Due to the overwhelming popularity of the first Rambo post and all of the postive comments the post received (zero), I've decided to continue on with the Rambo theme. For those few who didn't read the first post, it's okay, I'll sum it up right now. What might happen if Rambo was a feis dad?
This imaginative, thought provoking idea has churned up a lot of unanticipated proposals. One of which is from a film studio. They want to do a remake of the Rambo: First Blood movie ... only with an Irish dancing twist, called Feis Dad: First Feis. Below is a draft movie poster they made. What do you think? Summer blockbuster? Or not?

A serious message from feis dad about being a feis dad

This blog is not to be taken seriously. It’s meant to take a good-natured poke at how Irish Dance affects fathers (something many wives and daughters may not think about).

The reality of the situation is that most dads just don’t get the Irish Dance thing. It’s like asking our wives and daughters why they don’t throw high fives every time our favorite player hits a three-pointer in the playoffs.

I love my daughters, but I just can’t sit through twelve hours of accordion music at feis’ once a month. It is beyond me. And I truly believe that forcing me to do so would make me begin to resent their activity, which none of us want.

BUT, that doesn’t mean I don’t support our daughters in my own way.

That’s exactly what this blog is about. For good or bad, THIS is part of my support for them.

Some may say I’m not a good father if I don’t go to each and every performance or feis. But I believe both my daughters know I think what they are doing is important and good for them even though it’s hard for me to spell feis or oreach … orack … that big national feis thing.

My point in all of this is that although there are some things we just won’t do, I believe real feis dads need to ensure they:

Support their daughter’s (or son’s) love of Irish Dance.

Take interest in how they are doing.

Are excited when they perform well and move up.

Comfort them when they don’t.

Support their activity as much as we can within realistic financial and family obligations

Although we may not understand the specifics (like the difference is between a slip jig and a reel) we take an interest in the general idea

We tell our children we are proud of them every chance we get

Although we make light of some of the aspects of Irish Dance, they are never mean spirited or hurtful

We ensure that our children know what they are doing is important to us

Do what dads do best: build things—practice dance floors, sound systems, etc.

Take them to practices and performances when possible (even if it means missing part of the game, but maybe not if it’s the playoffs).

Again, this blog is not meant to be taken seriously.

No one is perfect. Not even feis dads. If you can’t laugh about it (or about yourself) then you’re missing out.

--feis dad